Saturday, 20 October 2012

Romance


Romance is a funny old thing isn't it? Every girl likes a bit of romance right? Well I know I do. It doesn't have to be huge romantic gestures like roof top, candle lit dinners – although one of these would definitely not go a miss. He'd do well out of it too, I reckon I'd reward him well, if you catch my drift. This however is pretty much likely to never happen and that's fine, I can live with that – just about!

It's the small romantic gestures that mean the most to me, the little things that show they are thinking about you. Like olbas oil on a tissue shoved in your face the moment you wake up – who says romance is dead? Okay that wasn't exactly romantic but it was quite sweet, I'd struggled to sleep all night as I couldn't breathe through my nose. So he came to my rescue… I did wonder for a moment when the tissue was shoved against my face whether he was trying to suffocate me. I was pleased to know that he wasn't.

One thing that I remember well was one evening he'd been to a gig in Birmingham and I had been to my friend's house. I agreed to go back to his afterwards and he gave me a key to let myself in. I didn't get back as late as I thought and was in need of a cup of tea. In the kitchen I found MY mug - (He bought it for me to keep at his as he thought his white ones weren't girlie enough for me…see cute.) with a biscuit in and 'I Luv u' wrote in pasta. I literally went awww out loud. It's probably one of the cutest things a guy has done for me. I'm easily pleased aren't I? When I went upstairs there was a bag hanging on the end of the bed, and a cute note on it – which I won't repeat as it was partly mushy partly rude. In the bag was a selection of little treats. Love hearts because he loves me etc.


It's things like that that I find the most romantic, the small unexpected little gestures. The ones that put a smile on your face and let you know that they are thinking about you. The little texts that come at exactly the right moment, with the words you need to get you through the day. It doesn't have to be huge bunches of flowers or romantic meals out.

Am I easily pleased? Or do you all think it's the little things too?

Friday, 12 October 2012

Birthdays

Birthdays

Birthdays change a lot with age, at least in my experience they do.
We go from being too young to really understand what's going on - first birthdays, sometimes even second birthdays. Then birthdays are exciting.

My eldest was 3 on his birthday and although he doesn't completely understand them he knows its about cake and presents and it's exciting. He gets excited about anyone's birthday and likes to join in the opening of presents. Often he talks about his birthday even though it was back in June, his monkey cake (that i made) gets the most mentions, he was definitely impressed with it.

 Then we reach an age where birthdays are just another day, it can still be exciting if you have someone to make a fuss of you but it's still not quite the same. You can't ignore the things you have to do with the day.

Today is my birthday my *coughs* 28th  birthday. It's just any other day. I woke up and had cuddles with my boys and told them 'its mummies birthday.' J asked if he could see my birthday and I wasn't sure what he meant. That is until his excitement to go downstairs, then the look of disappointment on his face followed by ' mummy where's your birthday?' I actually cried at his disappointment. On his birthday he came down to a pile of presents on the rug, balloons and banners and I think he was expecting the same for my birthday. I did have something to open, a little something from my sister and my mum and a few cards. Which the boys took great pleasure in handing to me and eagerly inspecting the bracelet and chocolates. Then it was time  to get on with nappy changing, breakfast making and washing the dishes. I've also since stripped the beds and put away my ironing and later I will be going to work. So it's pretty much just any other day.

Tonight I will be seeing S and I am looking forward to it a lot, we are not doing anything though probably just watching Eastenders or something. (We are going out for food when he's feeling better. ) I don't care I'm just looking forward to a cuddle and a happy birthday from him.

It's the  first birthday I've ever woke without another adult around. First parents and then A, both who would make a small fuss and hand me gifts or whatever. I'm not the kind of person who really cares about birthdays anyway, I don't feel the need to have big celebrations and as long as I get to spend it with someone I love it's fine. It is weird though. J has said happy birthday to me a few times and its very sweet, I didn't get the monkey cake with candles he told me he was going to make me though. Although I think at three he an be forgiven for not baking...

So birthdays as a adult...as a single mum are nothing special, nothing out of the ordinary, just any other day.