Facing another parenting difficulty these days and its
driving me slightly mad. I have absolutely no idea how to deal with it, or fix
the situation. As far as I can see it’s purely a case of riding it out.
It sharing – toddlers don’t understand the concept of sharing and obviously anything anyone else has is the best thing ever and they have to have it right that second. In that case I usually remove the item and give it back to whoever had it first and explain they need to share and take turns. They look at me like I am insane and continue to fight usually with the offending item being removed. It’s difficult because R is really too young to understand.
It sharing – toddlers don’t understand the concept of sharing and obviously anything anyone else has is the best thing ever and they have to have it right that second. In that case I usually remove the item and give it back to whoever had it first and explain they need to share and take turns. They look at me like I am insane and continue to fight usually with the offending item being removed. It’s difficult because R is really too young to understand.
The hardest situation is when J is
sitting nicely playing with ‘HIS’ toys and R decides that he wants to join in.
Resulting in J getting very defensive and upset at R taking his toys. I
completely understand J’s frustration they are his toys and at that moment he
doesn’t want to share and I feel that he shouldn’t have to. As well as learning
to share they need to learn a sense of self of worth too, and that something’s
are theirs. How do you deal with it though? R is at that age where he is
getting difficult to distract and he just wants to play with his brother. There
is nowhere for J to go that is safe, he used to be able to play on the sofa but
not since R can now climb up there to.
Has anyone got any advice on how to
deal with this?
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